Everyone knows that youth is a difficult period of human growth and development. A sudden hormonal influx is a time to cause a physiological change so that the child becomes reproductive. In some societies or cultures, ability to reproduce marks individuals as adults. Because legal adulthood is 18 years old, it is not so in the United States. Since puberty usually occurs between the ages of 10 and 13, this leaves a period of 5 to 8 years, during which parents newborn babies call it aware.
Beginning of adolescence
Changes in hormones produce the body of an adult automatically and beyond individual control. The first sign is that the child starts to grow in height. Growth is a physical job, adults do not usually look like that, but a tired young sleeps. The irony part of this is that the individual grows chronically tired as the body releases growth hormone during sleep. As any parent knows, a tired child is difficult and difficult. It is so in adolescence.
The accompanying growth is a secondary sexual feature that we named adolescence. Females begin menstruation, stretch their chests and bend their waist. The male starts physical arousal, thickening of the vocal cords, germination of the face hair.
In the case of men and women, this is a phenomenal and embarrassing change that each person has to balance with the increase in responsibility at school. Students change their teacher and will not be held accountable to one person on school day. The teacher expects a higher level of independent work and responsibility to complete the work. The allocation is longer in periods that cause difficulties for young people who are actually distracted by hormonal influences and increased need for sleep.
puberty
Normally, in the early teenage years, there is perfect adolescence in the swing. They lack the appropriate "social filter" for the thinking process. Comments often result in a social verbal "sickness" that relationships explode and ignorance about the cause of difficulties. General events cause emotional explosions. Often, the scale and duration are inappropriate. Every time an adult gives instructions or tries to train, the eyeball rotates. Voice is raised, oath and negligence imitate all "conversation", drawing on the continuing behavior, depression and isolation of the door at the doorway. Asking for permission to go somewhere or do something, when parents say "no", "Why can not you?" A senior young man, usually a man, is physically conflicted with his father's person, I even have a challenge.
Youth management
Behavior management and training that work with children do not work well with young people. Not only hormones and obvious physical changes, young people are developing adult thinking process. As Santa Claus, Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy have found illusions of 6 to 8 years old, the adolescents recognize that adults (especially their parents) are not perfect and do not know everything. Their apparent challenge of "why" and "why not" is actually trying to reveal adults' inference to them. Unfortunately, most parents respond as though the young are challenging authority, a relationship of power control is evolving, not beneficial for individuals or the whole family.
The best way to manage young people is to walk them through your reasoning whatever the situation. Is it easy? Normally it will take time. Let's consider time to infer as they spend teaching skills necessary for adults. Puberty is characterized in the same way as self-centered thinking and behavior (although the difference between infancy and early childhood is different). Teenagers usually do not understand the effects and consequences of behavior. Parents are interested in the safety and happiness of their children. A teenager presumes that an egocentric thinking process will be done by a parent just because he knows where he is, he / her friends, and the environmental conditions that all affect them.
Teenagers need to learn to think about others. Point of view They need to understand obvious things and learn to understand time, effort, and the limits of money. They need to know that their trust is inappropriate and that their safety can easily be compromised. They need to learn social relationships, especially the stepwise analytical process that determines the causes and effects of when someone else is authority and / or dominant.
Decision making
Puberty is when individuals want to raise the power of "adults" with their skills to make decisions. Unfortunately, the school curriculum does not deal with how to make decisions, and parents usually do not recognize the necessity or what to teach voluntarily. Decision making begins with choosing from the available options. Again, unfortunately, many people do not know how to find options. Each option has a result, many of which are unpredictable, usually a decision that means a long-term plan to escape the youth's abilities. Selection of decision and choice usually results in frustration, failure, and emotional response.
Parents need to begin teaching children how to make decisions by making structured alternatives. From a successful experience, children can understand the outcome of the behavior and take the first steps to make simple decisions. Guidelines for teaching these skills are on Parents Teach Kids' Parent Modules page.
